Many bloggers have focused on New Years resolutions (I have too) and it got me thinking… why are they so bloody difficult to keep?

I turned to google and found a throng of opinions. The majority agree that the key to making any permanent change is repetition - finding a way to make the new behavior a habit.

I won’t bore you with every article here. Instead I’ll highlight one of the more interesting - an excerpt from the Self Magazine article titled “Say Yes! to Sex.” where Steve Pavlina suggests you can apply his 30-day trial technique to turn “physical intimacy into a habit”.

He proposes “Every day for the next 30 days, devote 30-60 minutes to talking, snuggling, cuddling, massage, and of course, sex with your partner… That time becomes sacred couple-intimacy time with no interruptions. The commitment to spend time alone together every day for 30 days will create the space for your sex life to blossom.”

This isn’t the hottest spin on getting more S-E-X but isn’t getting more what really matters? We can argue that there isn’t an extra second in the day but how can we expect to get more couple time if we don’t take some action?

I’m intrigued and wouldn’t have thought of approaching more “us” time as a 30-day trial. While Hubs and I aren’t at 30-60 minutes yet, our commitment to a weekly Date Night is a start.

And you? Are you up for the 30-days-to-more-intimacy trial with your Honey?