January 9, 2008 - 7:03 pm
Many bloggers have focused on New Years resolutions (I have too) and it got me thinking… why are they so bloody difficult to keep?
I turned to google and found a throng of opinions. The majority agree that the key to making any permanent change is repetition - finding a way to make the new behavior a habit.
I won’t bore you with every article here. Instead I’ll highlight one of the more interesting - an excerpt from the Self Magazine article titled “Say Yes! to Sex.” where Steve Pavlina suggests you can apply his 30-day trial technique to turn “physical intimacy into a habit”.
He proposes “Every day for the next 30 days, devote 30-60 minutes to talking, snuggling, cuddling, massage, and of course, sex with your partner… That time becomes sacred couple-intimacy time with no interruptions. The commitment to spend time alone together every day for 30 days will create the space for your sex life to blossom.”
This isn’t the hottest spin on getting more S-E-X but isn’t getting more what really matters? We can argue that there isn’t an extra second in the day but how can we expect to get more couple time if we don’t take some action?
I’m intrigued and wouldn’t have thought of approaching more “us” time as a 30-day trial. While Hubs and I aren’t at 30-60 minutes yet, our commitment to a weekly Date Night is a start.
And you? Are you up for the 30-days-to-more-intimacy trial with your Honey?
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What I need is a better plan for fitting in all my honeys. Hard work.
January 9th, 2008 at January 9, 2008 - 10:35 pmMakes perfect sense to me. Seriously, I do think it’s just a matter of getting back into the habit, like exercise or church.
It will be fascinating to read about your progress in this new endeavor, CrankMama
January 10th, 2008 at January 10, 2008 - 9:43 amWow. You did some research to pull this one up. Honestly, after I put the four boys to bed the last thing I really want is to spend time with someone else! But, I can see where 30 minutes might be good for me…. I’ll see how you do first.
January 10th, 2008 at January 10, 2008 - 7:44 pmOh God, now I’m accountable! Well it’s a dirty job, but somebody’s gotta do it.
I’ll keep you posted.
And Jay - I remember that “hard work” from my single girl days. Fun but definitely hard, especially if any of them have the same name. I can’t wait to read about your progress with a better plan!
January 10th, 2008 at January 10, 2008 - 8:16 pm30 minutes? what do you do with the remaining 27?
January 11th, 2008 at January 11, 2008 - 6:47 pmseriously, though, i like steve pavlina!! if he says do it, i will seriously give some consideration to thinking about the possibility of maybe doing it.